Fit, Lean & Beautiful #26

Fit, Lean & Beautiful #26

By, Afua Serwah Osei-Bonsu


The long term quest for thicker natural hair persists.  What seems to be effective are things like Pantene Shampoo’s “Curly” line to wave and curl the hair then comb it out for more volume.  What is also nice is to every two months prune back your hair to thicken it and give it a little kick at the ends in your cut.

What also works is a warm, not hot, hair dryer with a diffuser and Aveda Hair Thickening spray which has a wonderful natural aroma.  Apparently hot gives you straighter hair and if you want volume or curl go for warm.  A great blow dry can give you volume by blowing in opposite directions.

Once you have achieved a nice head of natural hair, after all the Biotin etc. go for great skin.  Let attention to your skin take over.  It’s possible to take off 2 layers of skin with a microdermabrasion and 2 more layers with a mandelic peel and be 4 layers younger.

What really helps to soften skin in the winter is a humidifier.  Winter is also the time to resurface skin and smooth it out.  The most beautiful people have well cared for skin.  Get good lotions like Lubriderm or Himalaya.

What comes highly recommended are the FIT BIT Scale and Watch.  Strangely you can enter your ideal weight and the Wi-Fi technology of the FIT BIT tries to match it?  It is as if you can program your weight to decrease.

Getting skinny is a challenge.  You may want skinny fingers and try piano to refine your hands.  You may want skinny legs, and may try thigh high compression stockings.  If you want a skinny stomach try a waist trainer.  If you want all over skinny -lipo, colonic-take out all that stuff that just accrues.  By the time you get to your middle years there’s some accrual to deal with. Between ones accrual and rough birth, plan on looking good in your older years with some care.

Blank slating and removing tattoos and stretch marks and scars and hair may take years to do.

Another recommendation is to acquire a good dentist and make certain your basic scaffolding is in good order.  A good dentist is one that shapes your teeth while they clean them.

Have your hands and body checked for any bumps or rashes etc.  and keep a good dermatologist. There are some little miracle creams out there and good acne medicines like Adapalene from the dermatologist as well as creams like Triamcinolone Acetonide that clears weird little rashes  and scaly hands.

Invest in good athletic shoes and perhaps a pair of insoles to straighten legs or posture.  There are professional places for gauging the correct insole like Running Fit in Ann Arbor, MI.

Heavy perfume can smell very maternal and command respect.  Heavy perfume probably impacts the personality and carries memory.













Fit, Lean & Beautiful #25

Fit, Lean & Beautiful #25

By, Afua Serwah Osei-Bonsu

Many years ago a woman was asked what made her hair grow so fast.  She replied “gelatin.”  Lately in remembrance of this answer I have been eating lime Jell-O with fruit cocktail and whipped cream in the off chance that gelatin aids in hair growth?  However the tried and tested sworn by hair growth sprouter does seem to be biotin.  Biotin truly works.  Aveda has a Hair Thickener tonic spray that also appears to really work and is highly recommended.

One thing that seems to be life’s challenge in terms of aging is gravity and the general natural pull down of the skin, chin, breasts and stomach and buttocks.  Gravity eventually pulls them down and it’s up to each of us to develop a plan for it.  What seems to lift often are things like weight resistance training that strengthens muscular regions or yoga where you hold poses or tense and pump areas.  Yoga which is based on a warrior may be what one needs to fight back against the gravity which pulls down the body and is one of the world’s greatest transformers. Yoga gives the body grace, strength and shape.  Yoga is famous for lifting the buttocks. Exercises like bending at the waist and placing your hands on the floor and lifting behind you, your leg as high as possible and holding each leg for 17 seconds will eventually lift and firm the buttocks. Weight resistance training appears to lift the breasts and make them firmer and smaller.  It’s possible to hire a fitness or personal trainer to write specific exercises for your body type and lift all the aging or sagging areas.  Targeted exercises works every time!  It may be safer in the long run to have a personal trainer to teach you exercises, plan with you and monitor your progress.

A plastic surgeon is also a great help with a variety of services to work on a sagging chin or chicken or turkey like neck.  Sit down and map out your own body and figure out how to offset with medicine or industrial practices and specific exercise regimes to firm, lift, tighten, strengthen and maintain a healthy physique into old age.  Aim to be a good looking older person or look good in your old age, even have that thought young.  The arms droop, probably even the testicles start to droop from weight and gravity.  Men’s obsession with sex appeal may keep them working out and looking good longer.  Some doctors or plastic surgeons eventually end up pinning up testicles so they don’t droop too low, toro!

I have found that plain apple cider vinegar is potent in cleansing or weight loss.  Vinegars come nutritionist recommended and may be something to utilize when cleansing or in conjunction with fitness training.  Perhaps add vinegar to salads or in recipes.  There are old wives tales to even consume a teaspoon of vinegar before a meal to lose weight. Apple cider vinegar is supposed to melt fat.  It also cleans certain household items.

Gaim TV on Xfinity cable premium channels has wonderful exercise classes including with an exercise ball.  Gaim can be added to a home practice by acquiring some very basic equipment like balls or straps.  Gaim is one of the most beautiful things to watch on TV right now.  Try making an interesting exercise calendar for yourself including at the gym, with a personal trainer, cycling, home gym or pool, recumbent bicycling or a few walking buddy dates on a gym track or around a city or neighborhood.  It can be fun to design on a calendar ones “fitness life” and make it beautiful and even a catchup time with family or friends during walking buddy sessions. One can add dance or a sport or a low or high impact exercise routine or martial arts or classes.  I met a very interesting baseball player/ sports medicine doctor recently.   Even one day can be devoted to sauna or massage to reduce stress and relax after a strenuous workout or work week. It’s good to take one day alone for just stress.  Try to schedule in smoothies or salads or a juice bar date.  It can also be good to add spiritual and physical scholarship like Falun Gong to your morning or week.  Make sure to add some spirituality or readings each day.  Photo copy a stack of writings, poems or articles to work on your spirit and mental health at the same time.  In general a fitness calendar is the way to get started.  On time and you can download a basic calendar. Fitness is a part of life.  It’s easy with a fitness calendar to transform yourself, rejuvenate, achieve greater longevity and happiness.  People who work out have thicker longer hair, are leaner, 30 minutes of cardio gives you faster metabolism, live longer, experience greater beauty and strength.  People who work out get more jobs, have more money, greater stability of wealth and experience better health.  Fitness is a trait of the affluent.  Assuming a healthy lifestyle attracts you to all things healthy, even people.  Beware of how affluence inspires gluttony and many people who gain wealth become alcoholics and lose their health.

Another good thing to do is to find problem solving cool!!  Write down your problems and try to solve them.  Make appointments, go to the library, make calls, research online, ask questions, but try to solve deeply one’s own problems including all of your health problems.  It helps to research your own illnesses and talk to different doctors, look online and at the Centers for Disease Control for vaccines or a travel clinic etc.  Sometimes your doctor may not be aware of something that has come out and things change over time and get researched at universities every day of the week.  Things change and generally improve.  Figure out what it is, dissect it, break it into pieces and go to the doctors with a list even if they don’t like it.  Work on long term healing and try to find the right path to solve your problems.  It helps to research health and start for example a bump book to research bumps, know who heals what and keep a chart notebook for yourself with records and journal your progress in a variety of journals.  You can document all of your health issues from the time you are young, sometimes your children end up with the same issues and things run in families or come back.

In terms of problem-solving you can get ahead of problems and for example go for a check-up or diagnostic for your car you don’t have to wait until you or your car or family breaks down.

If you are in the city, the best thing about cities are blocks and walking.  Try long roaming or walking in the city and checking out interesting cultures etc. or just free running in the city’s parks. Make sure you have someplace to walk regardless of where you live.

One thing I came to realize to socialize oneself is include in your training common dances like salsa, merengue, basic party dancing in about 10 styles, ballroom dancing, drum or African dancing etc.  So that when you travel and there is, for example, a salsa craze in East Africa you know the steps or you’re at a concert and everyone is salsa dancing you’re not a dud.

There are wonderful products at Aveda for conditioning lips and Beauty Composition Oil and Shampure clean smelling oils and great shampoos and hair styling products for men and women.  There are even great hand lotions to be an old lady and stash in your handbag along with some tissues. Alternatively, from a plastic surgeon are the Glymed Products that seem to have a beautifying program on them and make you prettier-things such as face soaps.  Some Glymed products tan and even the skin-they are really good products and come highly recommended.

Depending on your hair texture or the shape of your skull or hairline, pinning hair up in different ways can be a way to sweep it up or frame the face or even make it look thicker or cleaner and neater and more refined.  Try good hair stylists to learn tricks or buy yourself some bun rings or hairpins or sticks or big clips.  Long or medium length hair can easily be transformed into neat and clean and command the respect alot of older women desire.  Even rubber bands can be nice to have in stock.  Braids piled on your head for longer hair or French braids for thicker hair, many things can be refining. Wholesome, natural and respectable can be an affluent look or intelligent look.

Beware of hair dyes.  As people get older some like gray, some don’t and will dye their hair or shave bald. Some dye gray to catch more respect.  Simple or natural hair color is almost always the best because what you were born with is matched to your skin tone that is why less is better.  Many people try jet black, try blond or try auburns or red tones and have the ugliest times in their life and ruin their beauty.  One’s born color is often the best for their skin tone.  It is possible to bump up or get things from a stylist that enhance shine or color. Products like infusium can be a little hair tonic for natural hair.

I had a bad experience at a hair party where a stylist dyed everyone’s hair blond at the party and everyone had to re-dye or shave it off.  One woman with long beautiful Mexican hair, re-dyed her hair her natural color over the blond or after stripping the color, then let her hair grow in her natural color and kept her hair and let the color grow out and has her beauty intact.  Some women with long hair know tricks like that to keep long hair under many circumstances, others with short hair just cut it off entirely and started fresh.  One went to a men’s barbershop for a nice professional clipper cut.  Most of us ended up without our hair or starting our hair over.  Blond tends to be the most common dye choice and often the most cheapening or unattractive. Sometimes people start to look like chemical roni with too many chemicals or dyes on the hair and look stupefied.  A lot of people who dye their hair blond lack respect.

Be careful of stylists wanting bigger bills and advising to dye your hair for their greater profit which is common or even racist stylists that will do things like leave chemicals in your hair and leave them on too long and damage the hair follicle. Beware of brassy or cheap looking colors that look truly like chemicals poured over the head and therefore unintelligent looking.  There is a way out for the wild ones or the experimental ones or the hipsters or the starlets or the rockers or the teenagers who always suffer.  Don’t be afraid of good old natural, of starting over or of simplicity when it 100% of the time looks more intelligent and more affluent.  Don’t be afraid to let it grow out long natural or even medium long to have something to work with, although short styles are nice too. The exception I would make is for little punk rockers with pinks, and blues and purples etc. who tend to look like a subculture or bird-like and are usually cute and attractive.

Even perms can be really wonderful to transform hair from limp to voluminous but many times inexperienced stylists will make your hair fall out.  Sometimes hair may not be old enough for a perm or strong and aged or waxy enough to perm it.  One may have young or too much new growth for a strong chemical treatment.  I have seen sort of “German” styled curls or corkscrew curls or “mops” or slightly relaxed curls or big curls or ringlets that look wonderful. Curly hair on men is insanely attractive.  I think it requires going to someone like Fekkai or an expert or one that is practically a human designer.  Some hair stylists do spa or plastic techniques too.  If you fear the chemicals try good old curler sets and styling lotions or mousses and curlers and sit under one of those bag hair dryers then curl it with a curling iron.  You can program your hair by adding a lot of regular volume. Another great thing to do is cut your hair regularly for clean ends or every 3 months if you’re looking for growth.  There are great cuts out there in biblical books like “friar cuts” or elliptical cuts.  What I would also mention for the German curls are a wide toothed comb and heavy conditioners like Nexxus to comb it out, it really depends on the care how well your curls display.

It can be great to get into Halloween with a goth look or just to add heavy black eyeliner for the month and write goblin and ghoul stories.  One may form a group and start a subculture with an aesthetic.

So if you’re in New York get a walking buddy or try walking and roaming.  What is also nice are reading parties.  I once had a dinner guest who picked up a book at my house and read the entire book while I was at the computer writing and I loved being together like that.  It’s possible to stage a reading of a play together with friends or print out copies of a research paper to read in a group as if in a convention or everyone bring copies of their poetry or go rent a cottage with a box of books alone or with your mate and read-reading parties are a nice life choice.  One may have a little more to show for their life if they choose some intellectual good times above 100% sexual ones.

Choose your style carefully to attract an intelligent match.  “Star power” can sometimes attract all the ignorant matches.  It’s good to command respect and even academic or collegiate clean styles can be nice.  If you pursue a plastic surgeon and you should, try one that prefers more natural, intelligent, academic, sports physique or dancer physique, healthy, even cultural, or perfected blank slates or professional looks like Dr. Gowda with offices in Troy and Novi, Michigan.

If your by chance near the beach it can be nice all those homemade coronas or just a strand of beads or tie a string around your wrist or waist or ankle to beautify maybe even a little African style or Mexican style.

I once made a homemade swimsuit that actually turned out beautiful.  If you have never tried it, you may like hand stitching your own clothes with maybe a strong blanket stitch or machine sewing some special things to have variety of clothes in your wardrobe.  It can be easy to make vests or get an industrial machine and work with leather or even a hole punch and leather cord can make leather products.  Getting creative with your own things can be rewarding and good times.

The last thing I will mention is something about “letting yourself go” and being one of those people who says that and “peer pressure.”  Meeting someone new or a colleague or family gathering or falling in love or a new job etc. can create really intense peer pressure that catapults you spontaneously to success.  Don’t be afraid when that happens when you get around a young hipster and feel like hell or fear you have lost your beauty.  Guard your spiritual and valorous beauty and work on your physical beauty aggressively.  Try never to lie and mess up the smooth running of your brain and work hard to achieve good thoughtful loving decisions for more wisdom.

A nice thing to purchase is a “gong,” that you can punctuate things with-begin and end spiritual sessions or exercises or love making or after finishing a degree or starting a marriage, or to clean your house-give yourself a nice GONG! To call up energy to a moment or radiate energy or spiritualize time, try a gong.  There are very nice writings about gongs in Falun Gong.

Fit, Lean & Beautiful #21

Fit, Lean and Beautiful #21

By, Afua Serwah Osei-Bonsu

After getting into your workout routine it’s nice to think about adding calcium for the bones and joint juice (Meijer’s) to make yourself stronger in your skeleton.

There are three machines at my gym that you can look out for at your gym the 1)Chest Press, 2)Fly and 3)The Lat, that all magically firm the breasts.  Before you consult a plastic surgeon you may want to try really toning, firming, shaping and lifting the breasts with weight training, it truly works.  The quality of your breasts can dramatically change with the right weight training.  Also hand held dumbbells or free weights at about 5lbs or 6 lbs. done in bicep curls can also assist with the breasts (lock your elbows and lift up).

One interesting thing I noticed doing bicep curls while standing on one leg grounded me in my leg and gave me balance.  Following one leg bicep curls I practiced balancing on one leg for 10 seconds with my eyes closed and was grounded in my legs from the former exercise.  There are ways to create and instill balance using free weights.  It’s kind of like being grounded into yourself with weights pulling you down.

I have noticed skin doesn’t tend to sag when you do weight training, the skin tightens nice and taught.  I find that with weight training exercises like the “Fly” or the “Lat” also my double chin is going and tightening and my feet are getting smaller.

One’s face can thin out and it’s possible to start looking like another person.

I don’t want to retract my stomach article in Fit, Lean & Beautiful #20, however, to get rid of a big belly quicker there are standing abdominal weight training machines that are upright and good old sit ups/crunches 3 reps of 10 can do the job.  If your belly is big then try just gliding your hands up your leg to your knees and do a baby crunches or sit ups on a stability ball.

It was recommended to me to sauna and shower at the gym for a little lux and increased weight loss after a work-out.  One can sauna-sweat out, shower wash off and use the bathroom to let go of as much fat etc. as possible. Give fat lots of exits.

I will kind of miss my big belly, it had/has a maternal feeling for a woman.

I would also like to upgrade that one can ride the recumbent bicycle for 20 minutes of cardio and very easily bike 3.5 miles.

Step counters and special watches and gauges are fun too.

Particular use of color like respectful blues or a nice patterned silk scarf or even a wrap, shawl or Reboso can bring a lot of  beauty.

There is a wonderful “Beauty Composition Oil” from Aveda that smells plant/herb like and is absolutely divine.

Frequent showering is also a beautifier-just being frequently fresh.  In some countries like Puerto Rico where temperatures are hot, people generally shower a few times a day and look their best right after.

One of the most sensual things one can do is just buy undershirts and underwear, a snug and clean feeling is very beautiful.





Fit, Lean & Beautiful #17

Fit, Lean & Beautiful #17

By, Afua Serwah Osei-Bonsu


Curl or add body to limp hair with a roller set or a permanent wave. Train and program the hair.  Brighten the hair.

Alternatively, one may adjust the setting on their hairdryer to a low setting and a cooler temperature to fluff, thicken, add body or curl to hair.

It can also be nice when growing a long head of hair to prune it back several times to thicken it before it grows long.

I was given good advice to curler bump the folds of my under pinned hair do’s to get a smooth more polished finish.

A really nice way to meet calcium necessities and get enough milk in one’s diet may be drinking chocolate milk.  Chocolate milk may be good for children and elderly to encourage calcium intake.

Spring is here time to plant roses.  I had a vision to beautify the side of the house with red climbing roses planted against the wall in a row.  I am looking for wild pussy willow.

I planted herbs, perennials, roses, wild flowers and spread grass seed-to catch the feeling of the beginning of spring-and scheduled a haircut.

A schedule part exercise, music rehearsal, volunteering, AmeriCorps, work 1, 2, 3, jobs, language on Saturday’s, language on Sundays, beauty Friday’s, and studying every night late night-really beautifies you.  Studying all the time really beautifies you.

Schedule vaccinations for upcoming trips and anything preventative or necessary that may be needed.  Plan things far in advance, like overseas travel or beach time or holiday savings clubs.  Rent a place or on Trip Advisor there are international apartments for short term rental. Coast holiday to holiday.