Happy Halloween 2018!!

Happy Halloween 2018!!
By, Afua Serwah Osei-Bonsu
It’s a time to get zombie and put on your black eyeliner. Form a subculture and write zombie thrillers, spectre, or ghouls and goblin style fiction. You can visit a dead relative in the cemetery. Go for a walk in the cemetery. In some cities old punkies would try to make love in the cemetery until a ghoul grabs their legs!
There is a lot of good fall culinary to try out like Halloween Peanut Butter Spider cookies where you make a peanut butter cookie and stick a peanut butter cup on top upside down and paint chocolate legs and put eyes on the peanut butter cup, also good are Caramel Apple Clafoutis and there is a good recipe on Bon Appetit.com-do a search, pumpkin cheesecake, caramel apples, peanut brittle, pumpkin and applesauce quick bread, apple pies and vanilla ice cream, sweet potato pies, lots of squash or sweet potatoes in general-orange-research fall desserts online. Grains and corn dishes like “Homalito” or “Tamales” are also nice. Another culinary delight that strangely really fits is a touch of Tex-Mex or Mexican dishes or a Mexican Fiesta for “Day of the Dead” celebrations or African foods if you’re going the way of Black Magic. Some great recipes for fall were found on “Food Networks 50 Best Halloween Recipes” and “Food Networks 50 Top Tailgating Recipes” ( has good chili recipes), Food and Wine.com also has nice gratins, baked stuffed acorn squash, casseroles, apple cider cakes and candies. Halloween with all homemade candies? You can do spooky snacks, Halloween cookies that are animated, cover a cake with candy, Jalapeno Poppers with smoked pepper cheese, feta and cream cheese inside, black salt rimmed glasses, or “Bite Night” a Vampire themed party with snacks or tapas.

It’s also a good time for women to gather and form witch covens or practice paganism or make a fire in or out or attend a bonfire outside and sing and tell stories or read from books with a flashlight. You can buy an outdoor fireplace if you are in a residential area. You can also go to a farm and go on a hay ride. Fall drives in the country or to the Cider Mill if you are in Michigan are also great fun. Pick up a gallon of apple cider (it’s a stool softener). Peanuty things are nice like Pad Thai. It’s also Oktoberfest and beers and brats fit in and so does tailgating and games. Chili’s for the first “chills” are also nice.
Make a Halloween video-lay dead on the steps with punk hair or a wig and a 40’s dress. Try writing a script and make a video, performance art piece, prosperous zero or write a play or story. Search online for Halloween Video Editing Tips. Perhaps you can have a screening party or maybe a piano recital or zombie violin recital.
Put a candy bowl in your home or business. Don’t forget to make your dentist appointment so he/she can break the bad news to you right after Halloween that you have all those cavities.
Maybe a bloody mary! Search high and low for Halloween cocktails. Beer is traditional for October, a classic beer month. Cheap drafts, anything ghouly or glowing, Mexican beers and liquors for Day of the Dead, Tequila shots, Guinness, hot toddy’s and warming drinks and whatever matches your costume.
Nice pumpkins, hay and outdoor decorations, wreaths on the door, corn cobs, altars, sugar cane, skeletons, calaberas, parties, candy parties for kids, costumes, sewing and patterns at Joann Fabrics features alot of interesting costumes to sew if you are searching for an idea or you want to dress up your insanely loved child.
Music can be moody classical, baroque, call your ancestors, soundtracks to thrillers, Michael Jackson, Velvet Underground, Sex Pistols, Punk Rock, Smiths, Pixies, Santana, and whatever you’re channeling with your costume and spooky stuff. Also spiritual African music like Ali Farka Toure “In the Heart of the Moon,” Fatou, Ry Cooder “A Meeting by the River,” Ry Cooder “Bop till you Drop,” Ry Cooder “Mambo Sinuendo,” Kate Bush, Grateful Dead “American Beauty,” Jan A.P. Kaczmarek “Unfaithful,” old Sinead O’Connor, 10,000 Maniacs, Annie Lennox, Babatunde, Queen “Rhapsody” or ABBA, Starwars Sound Track, Grover Washington, Herbie Hancock and Cassandra Wilson.
Don’t forget about the dead, set a place for them at the table. Decorate! Put a sign on the door if you are accepting Trick or Treater’s and organize it in your neighborhood. Make-up, costume, zombie styles, culinary, good Music, films and making films, photos or portraits in costume, parties, spiders, spirituality, children, women, writing, farms, countryside, fall, Oktoberfest, sports, games, college games.
DO NOT FORGET YOUR FUCK BOOTS for the adults. What is also nice is to make holiday libraries, see book list below and check goodreads.com for Best Halloween Books. Black cats, costumed dogs, black and orange, masks and papier mache!!! You can make very original costumes and designs with Papier mache. Parades. Candy, occult, metaphysical, herbs, even getting a cold, death, write your will or estate planning, Halloween graphics and good spooky graphic designs, song books and collect or write music see below suggestions for basic fireside songs. Drawing from a live model with charcoals and drawing pencils or painting is also nice or formal illustration by computer could also be exciting. What could be really fantastic is feeding off old folklore, legend, or magic to create dynamic paintings and use your holiday to paint. Make a Zine or a Zombie Zine. Anything metaphysical or voodoo or ju ju or Black Magic. Irish music and folklore. Tarot. Legends, myths, fables.
Halloween can drag out all your characterization fantasies. You can have a hand puppet recite poetry or wear a white owl papier mache mask or some kind of scary animal with little weird teeth out of papier mache. There are sometimes groups that form that make papier mache masks then host events, do plays or make parades.
It may be nice to play dress up and take photos. It may be nice to make herbal concoctions. What is really nice is to pay homage to the full moon. There used to be Full Moon Bazaar parties every full moon. A drumming circle may be nice. It may be nice to really just get into Halloween or fall culinary. You can always pop on a game on TV for an instant tailgating party. Maybe try a Zombie Dance Party or Gothic or Halloween Film Night or just curl up and read all month.
Happy Halloween from Revolving Stream!
Movie List
Alfred Hitchcock
Dumaurier Films (classics): “Jamaica Inn,” “Rebecca,” “Frenchman’s Creek,” “The Years Between,” “Hungry Hill,” “My Cousin Rachel,” “Kiss Me Again Stranger,” “Fraction of a Second,” “The Scapegoat,” “The Birds,” “Don’t Look Now,” “The Break Through,” “The Life Force Experiment,” “The Birds II, Lands End”
Michael Jackson Thriller Video and Album
The Exorcist
One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest
Arachnophobia
Hocus Pocus
Tess
The Picture of Dorian Gray By, Oscar Wilde
Rosemary’s Baby
Carrie
Beetlejuice
Ghostbuster’s
The Adam’s Family
Patrick
Rocky Horror Picture Show
Psycho
Bird’s
Bee’s
Circus Video’s
American Werewolf in London
Frankenstein
Sweetie
Blue Velvet
Performance Art (Goat Island Video’s)
Phantom of the Opera
Wizard of Oz
Barnum and Baily
Bob Flanagan
Snow White
Fritz the Cat
Naked Lunch
The Hobbit
Free to be You and Me
Freaks By Tod Browning 1932
American Carny: True Tales for the Circus Sideshow
Sideshow Alive in the Mind
RBG Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Black Orpheus
Lacto Drom
Want you to be my neighbor Morgan Neville (Mr. Rogers Neighborhood)
Charlie Chaplin
Buster Keaton
Akira Kurosawa
Film Noir
Ginger Rogers
Hedy Lamarr

Book List
Daphne Dumaurier (see Wikipedia Book list, also search for “Classics of the Macabre”)
Nathaniel Hawthorne
Truman Capote, In Cold Blood
Fyodor Dostoevsky (Crime & Punishment, The Idiot, The Brothers Karamozov)
Nikolai Gogol (Diary of a Madman)
Anton Chekov
Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn
Egon Schiller
Louise Bourgeois, An Unfolding Portrait
Friedrich Nietsche
Belinksy
Kant
Cervantes
Herzen
Plato
Victor Hugo
Bakunin
Pushkin
Augustine
Balzac
Dickens
Walter Scott
Homer Epics
Jean-Paul Satre
Hoffman
Sand
Hegel
Solovyov
Ann Radcliffe
Diane Arbus
The Scarlet Letter
Edgar Allan Poe “Murder in the Rue Morgue”
Crime Fiction
Cambridge Companion to Crime Fiction
L.T. Meade’s “Stories from the Diary of a Doctor”
Naturalist works: Arnold Bennet, HG Wells, Arthur Morrison “Child of Jago”
American Gothic Tales By Joyce Carol Oates
The Pagan Book of Halloween: A Complete Guide to The Magick, Incantations, Recipes, Spells and Love By Gerina Dunwich
Halloween: Vintage Holiday Graphics
The Picture of Dorian Gray By Oscar Wilde
Trick or Treats: The Ultimate Halloween Book By Deborah Harding
The Book of The Occult By, Simon W. Clark
Aleister Crowley , The Book of Thoth (Tarot), Qabalistic Writings
Carlos Casteneda
Jude’s Home Herbal
I Tituba, Black Witch of Salem, By, Maryse Conde
Olludumare
Legends of Santeria, World Religion & Magic By, Gonzalez-Wippler
Magic From Brazil, Recipes, Spells & Rituals By, Caroline Dow
VOODOO Curses, Don’t Get Mad, Get Even, The Dark Art of Curses Vol . 1 By Prince Abdul-Hawl and A.B. Aames
Enchantments a Modern Witches Guide to Self Possession By, Mya Spalter
Fast Orisha Power: A Quick Tutorial to Urban Santeria by, Frater Azrael
Santeria: A Practical Guide to Afro-Caribbean Magic By, Luis Manuel Nunez
Santeria: African magic in Latin America By, Migene Gonzalez-Wippler
Urban Santeria: New World Magic for Urban & Suburban Populations by, Medicine Hawk Wilburn
The Magical Power of The Saints, Evocation & Candle Rituals By, Rev. Ray T. Malborough
Santeria: African Spirits in America by, Joseph M. Murphy
Santeria: African Magic in Latin America By, Migene Gonzalez-Wippler
Creative Ritual, El Obatala
Continuing Yoruba, Santeria & Western Magic Traditions By El Obatala
Santeria The Religion, The Religion: Faith, Rites, Magic, World Religion & Magic By, Migene Gonzalez-Wippler
Kali Mantra Magick, Summoning the Dark Powers of Kali Ma, Mantra Magick Series Book 2, By Baal Kadman
Robert B. Parkers Old Black Magic, (Spenser Book Art) By Ace Atkins
The Book of Black Magic by Arthur Edward Waite
Black Magic: Religion and the African Conjuring Tradition By, Yvonne P. Chireau
The Veritable magic Noire, True Black Magic By, Iroe Grego
Black Magic: Spells of Destruction By, Ashtara Mikovich
The book of the Forbidden Knowledge Black Magic, Superstition, Charms & Divination By, Johnson Smith and co Tarl Warwick
Magical Healing a Health Survival Gudie for Magicians & Healers by Josephine McCarty
The Unofficial harry Potter Spell Book Wizard Training By, Michael Gonzalez
Simple Self Healing=The Magic of Auto Suggestion By, Emile Coue
Creative Visualization By, Shakti Gowain
Tales From Dark Places the Halloween Collection By, D.C. Rogers
Zombie Apocalypse Trilogy book 1-3 By Chelsea Luna
Death Makes a Holiday a Cultural History of Halloween
The Physick Book of Deliverance Dane By Katherine Howe
The Phantom of the Opera, By, Gaston Leroux
H.P. Lovecraft’s Book of the Supernatural: Classic Tales of The Macabre By Stephen Jones
World War Z: An Oral History of The Zombie War By, Max Brooks
It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown
The Legend of Sleepy Hollow By, Washington Irving
The Shining By, Stephen King
The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde By, Robert Louis Stevenson
Alice in Wonderland
Greek Mythology (eg. Medusa)
Charlotte’s Web
The Witches By, Roald Dahl
Macbeth, By Shakespeare
The Halloween Tree, By Ray Bradbury
Dracula By, Bram Stoker
Frankenstein, By Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley
Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark By, Alvin Schwartz
The Complete Tales and Poems By, Edgar Allan Poe
The Graveyard Book By, Neil Gaiman
Anan Cara, A Book of Celtic Wisdom, By, John O’Donohue
Pagan Portals-Irish Paganism, reconstructing Irish Polytheism By Morgan Daimler
Gods & Goddesses of Ireland, A guide to Irish Deities, by Morgan Daimler
Celtic Flame: An Insider’s Guide to Irish Pagan Tradition By, Aedh Rua
Pagan Ireland (Epochs of Irish History Books) By, Eleanor Hull
Wild Irish Heart, The Mystic Cove Series Book 1, By, Tricia O’Malley
Wild Irish Witch, Mystic Cove Series Book 6, By, Tricia O’Malley
Wild Irish Roots, Margaret and Sean, The Mystic Cove Series Book 5, By, Tricia O’Malley
Wild Irish Rebel, A Mystic Cove Novel Book 4, By, Tricia O’Malley
Thicker Than Water, A Dermot O’hara Mystery Book 1, Michael McDonnell & Mial Pagan
Wild Irish Eyes, A Mystic Cove Novel Book 2, By Tricia O’Malley
Camera Obscura
How to Make Masks! Easy How to Make Masks, Masquerade, Halloween and Dress Up Fun By Jonni Good
Papier Mache Masks by Jane Yates
Great Paper Mache By, Gerry Copp
Paper Fantastic 50 Creative Projects to Fold and Weave
Hand Puppets How to Make and Use Them
Step Right UP! Memoirs of a Sword Swallower By, Daniel P Mannix
The Lives and Loves of Daisy and Violet Hilton A True Story of Conjoined Twins By Dean Jenson
Inside Peewee’s Playhouse the Unfolding Unauthorized Unpredictable Story of a Pop Phenomenon
Big top Pee Wee & Friends A color & Fun Book
Big Top Pee Wee and The Circus
Focus on: 100 Most Popular Comedy Film Characters: Lemony Snicket, Howard the Duck, Pee Herman, Goofy, Homer Wikipedia
Freaks of Side show and Film By Mary Brett & Steven Gould
Peter Hennen Hell’s Belles From Gorilla Girls to Freak Babies By, Kevin T. Gerone
My Life with Geeks, Freaks and Vagabonds in the Carny Trade By Howard Bone and Daniel Waldron
Electric Woman, A Memoir in Death-Defying Acts By, Tessa Fontaine
Carnival Freak, By Billie Sue Mosiman
The Giants of Seville By, Byron Scarbrough

Some Classic Fireside Fall Songs:
Weeping Willow
Sleepy Hollow
Weeping Willow
The valley goes on and on
The valley goes on and on

Sleepy Hollow
Weeping Willow
Sleepy Hollow
Love will follow

I walk the leaves so pale
I walk the leaves so pale
(a wail shriek thrill like an animal at night)
The sun has gone to bed
The sky is so dark
The stars are so bright
The animals start to sing
And I am falling in love

I toss my photo into the fire
I toss my photo into the fire
And go to God
I send this letter to the angels
To ask their plea
I send all my dark energy
to the fire
And out of me
I toss my photo into the fire
And go to God

Come by here
Come by here my lord, come by here
Come by here my lord, come by here
Come by here my lord, come by here
Oh lord, come by here

Someone needs you lord, come by here
Someone needs you lord, come by here
Someone needs you lord, come by here
Oh lord, come by here

Someone’s praying lord, come by here
Someone’s praying lord, come by here
Someone’s praying lord, come by here
Oh lord, come by here

Come by here my lord, come by here
Come by here my lord, come by here
Come by here my lord, come by here
Oh lord, come by here

Show me kindness
Show me kindness
Show me love
Improve my life
I’ll improve yours

Devastation
Where is devasta-tion?
Where is deva-sta-tion?
Where is devasta-tion?
Where is deva-st-a-tion?

When you fall-out- of- love
With deva-staaaaaa-tion
Then I’ll be saved.

All songs were written by Afua Serwah Osei-Bonsu with the exception of “Come by Here” copied from Hymnary.org

Halloween, A Barometer of Health

Halloween, A Barometer of Health

By, Afua Serwah Osei-Bonsu

Back in the 70’s in certain neighborhoods in Michigan or apartment complexes, on Halloween children got into costumes and went door to door with little pumpkins or bags or even pillow cases to fit more candy.  People put up decorations and in big bowls handed out candy to every neighborhood child generally between 5-8 PM on Halloween.  In 2017, it appears that some neighborhoods are too dangerous for children to go door to door and it becomes a “barometer of health” for a community, is my community safe for children?  Back in the 70’s elementary school teachers at schools like Spartan Village Elementary prepared kids for Trick or Treating giving them directions to “check” all their candy or beware of apples or unpackaged goods that could be tampered with.  Some people loved the opportunity to give to local children and gave Halloween pencils.  Generally when candy ran out, people starting giving pennies, nickels, dimes, and quarters to children and the average child came home with a little cash.  People hauled out those big jars of saved coins and some even wrapped pennies in cloth or plastics.  Children got home and spread out their candies, organizing selections and counting candy bars, checking for favorites and even engaging in a few swaps with siblings.  These are the kids with silver fillings in every tooth that hit the dentist when they drilled cavities.  Halloween was great!

Some parents get together with friends and make their children’s bags of candy entirely themselves without going door to door.  Some parents also hire a tailor to make their children’s costumes.  Buy a cake, make punch and play music and games.  Working professionals are finding solutions to make sure their kids have the best of times.  It’s also good to start planning Halloween two months in advance, so around August, some people start to plan Halloween. Some parents will organize 20 or so houses in their neighborhood for children to Trick or Treat at and place signs on all their doors. Some even drive around for Trick or Treating.

People with children may want to look for solutions for continuing the holiday and also problem solving within their community when people don’t seem to be safe with children.  One possible solution would be to have the police perform background checks and issue signage for front lawns and front doors to alert children that this household is a checked and safe household that wants to participate in the holiday.  It would be great if the police issued certified Halloween signs. Signs could also be posted like “sorry kids candy has run out.”   It’s interesting to see which neighborhoods are still able to maintain the holiday with ease and without crime that may be better places to raise children.

Some possible alternatives could be for businesses to develop their client base of the future and participate in handing out candies.  Another would be for shopping malls to be safe places for Halloween trick or treating.  Schools may have their own Halloween festivities that kick off the day.  Back in the 70’s kids were bobbing for apples, playing musical chairs, eating cupcakes and generally having spooktacular good times.

One solution I heard of were these pop up warehouses that feature haunted houses etc. and you pay a general admission and go around to stands collecting a variety of candy.  What Halloween ends up being is a holiday geared towards safety and how to have a good time, safely.

There are many ways to catch the fever at cider mills or on farms or on hay rides or planning parties or making a  bonfire, or even with an outdoor fireplace, singing songs or sewing costumes, or making quick breads or shopping for old and traditional Halloween candies or writing spooky stories or telling stories or making a goth writing group or wearing rainbow hair or wigs or black eyeliner, or maybe a trip to the cemetery to visit the dead.

It is up to each of us to use this opportunity to make our neighborhoods safer for children.  People may want to distribute photocopies to get it going in their neighborhood or schedule a neighborhood meeting or even consult the police.  It’s time to gear up for next year!  The City of Ann Arbor had a lot of festivities planned for the holiday and distributed an email that went around.  Things were planned in parks as well as setting official kick off times and closing times.  Halloween can be a fun way to engage in community building.

It may even be nice in student areas to promote some college trick or treating for older students who would love a big bag of diverse candy.  Don’t forget to wear your spirited colors like orange and black.

In other parts of the world Halloween may be holidays like Dia de los muertos or Day of the Dead in Mexico.  Halloween may also be a time of witch covens or paganism.   Search your local public library for books on Day of the Dead or interesting Halloween celebrations!  Halloween just passed but make a good plan for next year!!!

Don’t forget to stock up on oral care, preserve your teeth and make a trip to the dentist!! You may even want Prilosec for those belly aches?

 

 

 

Fit, Lean & Beautiful #25

Fit, Lean & Beautiful #25

By, Afua Serwah Osei-Bonsu

Many years ago a woman was asked what made her hair grow so fast.  She replied “gelatin.”  Lately in remembrance of this answer I have been eating lime Jell-O with fruit cocktail and whipped cream in the off chance that gelatin aids in hair growth?  However the tried and tested sworn by hair growth sprouter does seem to be biotin.  Biotin truly works.  Aveda has a Hair Thickener tonic spray that also appears to really work and is highly recommended.

One thing that seems to be life’s challenge in terms of aging is gravity and the general natural pull down of the skin, chin, breasts and stomach and buttocks.  Gravity eventually pulls them down and it’s up to each of us to develop a plan for it.  What seems to lift often are things like weight resistance training that strengthens muscular regions or yoga where you hold poses or tense and pump areas.  Yoga which is based on a warrior may be what one needs to fight back against the gravity which pulls down the body and is one of the world’s greatest transformers. Yoga gives the body grace, strength and shape.  Yoga is famous for lifting the buttocks. Exercises like bending at the waist and placing your hands on the floor and lifting behind you, your leg as high as possible and holding each leg for 17 seconds will eventually lift and firm the buttocks. Weight resistance training appears to lift the breasts and make them firmer and smaller.  It’s possible to hire a fitness or personal trainer to write specific exercises for your body type and lift all the aging or sagging areas.  Targeted exercises works every time!  It may be safer in the long run to have a personal trainer to teach you exercises, plan with you and monitor your progress.

A plastic surgeon is also a great help with a variety of services to work on a sagging chin or chicken or turkey like neck.  Sit down and map out your own body and figure out how to offset with medicine or industrial practices and specific exercise regimes to firm, lift, tighten, strengthen and maintain a healthy physique into old age.  Aim to be a good looking older person or look good in your old age, even have that thought young.  The arms droop, probably even the testicles start to droop from weight and gravity.  Men’s obsession with sex appeal may keep them working out and looking good longer.  Some doctors or plastic surgeons eventually end up pinning up testicles so they don’t droop too low, toro!

I have found that plain apple cider vinegar is potent in cleansing or weight loss.  Vinegars come nutritionist recommended and may be something to utilize when cleansing or in conjunction with fitness training.  Perhaps add vinegar to salads or in recipes.  There are old wives tales to even consume a teaspoon of vinegar before a meal to lose weight. Apple cider vinegar is supposed to melt fat.  It also cleans certain household items.

Gaim TV on Xfinity cable premium channels has wonderful exercise classes including with an exercise ball.  Gaim can be added to a home practice by acquiring some very basic equipment like balls or straps.  Gaim is one of the most beautiful things to watch on TV right now.  Try making an interesting exercise calendar for yourself including at the gym, with a personal trainer, cycling, home gym or pool, recumbent bicycling or a few walking buddy dates on a gym track or around a city or neighborhood.  It can be fun to design on a calendar ones “fitness life” and make it beautiful and even a catchup time with family or friends during walking buddy sessions. One can add dance or a sport or a low or high impact exercise routine or martial arts or classes.  I met a very interesting baseball player/ sports medicine doctor recently.   Even one day can be devoted to sauna or massage to reduce stress and relax after a strenuous workout or work week. It’s good to take one day alone for just stress.  Try to schedule in smoothies or salads or a juice bar date.  It can also be good to add spiritual and physical scholarship like Falun Gong to your morning or week.  Make sure to add some spirituality or readings each day.  Photo copy a stack of writings, poems or articles to work on your spirit and mental health at the same time.  In general a fitness calendar is the way to get started.  On time and date.com you can download a basic calendar. Fitness is a part of life.  It’s easy with a fitness calendar to transform yourself, rejuvenate, achieve greater longevity and happiness.  People who work out have thicker longer hair, are leaner, 30 minutes of cardio gives you faster metabolism, live longer, experience greater beauty and strength.  People who work out get more jobs, have more money, greater stability of wealth and experience better health.  Fitness is a trait of the affluent.  Assuming a healthy lifestyle attracts you to all things healthy, even people.  Beware of how affluence inspires gluttony and many people who gain wealth become alcoholics and lose their health.

Another good thing to do is to find problem solving cool!!  Write down your problems and try to solve them.  Make appointments, go to the library, make calls, research online, ask questions, but try to solve deeply one’s own problems including all of your health problems.  It helps to research your own illnesses and talk to different doctors, look online and at the Centers for Disease Control for vaccines or a travel clinic etc.  Sometimes your doctor may not be aware of something that has come out and things change over time and get researched at universities every day of the week.  Things change and generally improve.  Figure out what it is, dissect it, break it into pieces and go to the doctors with a list even if they don’t like it.  Work on long term healing and try to find the right path to solve your problems.  It helps to research health and start for example a bump book to research bumps, know who heals what and keep a chart notebook for yourself with records and journal your progress in a variety of journals.  You can document all of your health issues from the time you are young, sometimes your children end up with the same issues and things run in families or come back.

In terms of problem solving you can get ahead of problems and for example go for a check-up or diagnostic for your car-you don’t have to wait until you or your car of family breaks down.

If you are in the city, the best thing about cities are blocks and walking.  Try long roaming or walking in the city and checking out interesting cultures etc. or just free running in the city’s parks. Make sure you have some place to walk regardless of where you live.

One thing I came to realize to socialize oneself is include in your training common dances like salsa, merengue, basic party dancing in about 10 styles, ball room dancing, drum or African dancing etc.  So that when you travel and there is for example a salsa craze in East Africa you know the steps or you’re at a concert and everyone is salsa dancing you’re not a dud.

There are wonderful products at Aveda for conditioning lips and Beauty Composition Oil and Shampure clean smelling oils and great shampoos and hair styling products for men and women.  There are even great hand lotions to be an old lady and stash in your handbag along with some tissues. Alternatively from a plastic surgeon are the Glymed Products that seem to have a beautifying program on them and make you prettier-things such as face soaps.  Some Glymed products tan and even the skin-they are really good products and come highly recommended.

Depending on your hair texture or the shape of your skull or hairline, pinning hair up in different ways can be a way to sweep it up or frame the face or even make it look thicker or cleaner and neater and more refined.  Try good hair stylists to learn tricks or buy yourself some bun rings or hair pins or sticks or big clips.  Long or medium long hair can easily be transformed into neat and clean and command the respect alot of older women desire.  Even rubber bands can be nice to have in stock.  Braids piled on your head for longer hair or French braids for thicker hair, many things can be refining. Wholesome, natural and respectable can be an affluent look or intelligent look.

Beware of hair dyes.  As people get older some like gray, some don’t and will dye their hair or shave bald. Some dye gray to catch more respect.  Simple or natural hair color is almost always the best because what you were born with is matched to your skin tone that is why less is better.  Many people try jet black, try blond or try auburns or red tones and have the ugliest times in their life and ruin their beauty.  One’s born color is often the best for their skin tone.  It is possible to bump up or get things from a stylist that enhance shine or color. Products like infusium can be a little hair tonic for natural hair.

I had a bad experience at a hair party where a stylist dyed everyone’s hair blond at the party and everyone had to re-dye or shave it off.  One woman with long beautiful Mexican hair, re-dyed her hair her natural color over the blond or after stripping the color, then let her hair grow in her natural color and kept her hair and let the color grow out and has her beauty intact.  Some women with long hair know tricks like that to keep long hair under many circumstances, others with short hair just cut it off entirely and started fresh.  One went to a men’s barbershop for a nice professional clipper cut.  Most of us ended up without our hair or starting our hair over.  Blond tends to be the most common dye choice and often the most cheapening or unattractive. Sometimes people start to look like chemical roni with too many chemicals or dyes on the hair and look stupefied.  A lot of people who dye their hair blond lack respect.

Be careful of stylists wanting bigger bills and advising to dye your hair for their greater profit which is common or even racist stylists that will do things like leave chemicals in your hair and leave them on too long and damage the hair follicle. Beware of brassy or cheap looking colors that look truly like chemicals poured over the head and therefore unintelligent looking.  There is a way out for the wild ones or the experimental ones or the hipsters or the starlets or the rockers or the teenagers who always suffer.  Don’t be afraid of good old natural, of starting over or of simplicity when it 100% of the time looks more intelligent and more affluent.  Don’t be afraid to let it grow out long natural or even medium long to have something to work with, although short styles are nice too. The exception I would make is for little punk rockers with pinks, and blues and purples etc. who tend to look like a subculture or bird like and are usually cute and attractive.

Even perms can be really wonderful to transform hair from limp to voluminous but many times inexperienced stylists will make your hair fall out.  Sometimes hair may not be old enough for a perm or strong and aged or waxy enough to perm it.  One may have young or too much new growth for a strong chemical treatment.  I have seen sort of “German” styled curls or corkscrew curls or “mops” or slightly relaxed curls or big curls or ringlets that look wonderful. Curly hair on men is insanely attractive.  I think it requires going to someone like Fekkai or an expert or one that is practically a human designer.  Some hair stylists do spa or plastic techniques too.  If you fear the chemicals try good old curler sets and styling lotions or mousses and curlers and sit under one of those bag hair dryers then curl it with a curling iron.  You can program your hair by adding a lot of regular volume. Another great thing to do is cut your hair regularly for clean ends or every 3 months if you’re looking for growth.  There are great cuts out there in biblical books like “friar cuts” or elliptical cuts.  What I would also mention for the German curls are a wide toothed comb and heavy conditioners like Nexxus to comb it out, it really depends on the care how well your curls display.

It can be great to get into Halloween with a goth look or just to add heavy black eyeliner for the month and write goblin and ghoul stories.  One may form a group and start a subculture with an aesthetic.

So if you’re in New York get a walking buddy or try walking and roaming.  What is also nice are reading parties.  I once had a dinner guest who picked up a book at my house and read the entire book while I was at the computer writing and I loved being together like that.  It’s possible to stage a reading of a play together with friends or print out copies of a research paper to read in a group as if in a convention or everyone bring copies of their poetry or go rent a cottage with a box of books alone or with your mate and read-reading parties are a nice life choice.  One may have a little more to show for their life if they choose some intellectual good times above 100% sexual ones.

Choose your style carefully to attract an intelligent match.  “Star power” can sometimes attract all the ignorant matches.  It’s good to command respect and even academic or collegiate clean styles can be nice.  If you pursue a plastic surgeon and you should, try one that prefers more natural, intelligent, academic, sports physique or dancer physique, healthy, even cultural, or perfected blank slates or professional looks like Dr. Gowda with offices in Troy and Novi, Michigan.

If your by chance near the beach it can be nice all those homemade coronas or just a strand of beads or tie a string around your wrist or waist or ankle to beautify maybe even a little African style or Mexican style.

I once made a homemade swimsuit that actually turned out beautiful.  If you have never tried it, you may like hand stitching your own clothes with maybe a strong blanket stitch or machine sewing some special things to have variety of clothes in your wardrobe.  It can be easy to make vests or get an industrial machine and work with leather or even a hole punch and leather cord can make leather products.  Getting creative with your own things can be rewarding and good times.

The last thing I will mention is something about “letting yourself go” and being one of those people who says that and “peer pressure.”  Meeting someone new or a colleague or family gathering or falling in love or a new job etc. can create really intense peer pressure that catapults you spontaneously to success.  Don’t be afraid when that happens when you get around a young hipster and feel like hell or fear you have lost your beauty.  Guard your spiritual and valorous beauty and work on your physical beauty aggressively.  Try never to lie and mess up the smooth running of your brain and work hard to achieve good thoughtful loving decisions for more wisdom.

A nice thing to purchase is a “gong,” that you can punctuate things with-begin and end spiritual sessions or exercises or love making or after finishing a degree or starting a marriage, or to clean your house-give yourself a nice GONG! To call up energy to a moment or radiate energy or spiritualize time, try a gong.  There are very nice writings about gongs in Falun Gong.